What Kills Romance in Marriage in Your 50s and 60s (And How to Get It Back When It Feels Hopeless)
Romance in midlife is one of the topics I get asked about most, which is exactly why I invited Zane to sit down and have this honest conversation with me. Keeping romance alive in marriage in your 50s and 60s looks completely different than it did at twenty-five, and Zane and I are not here to pretend we have always had it figured out. We have been together forty years, and that means we have had seasons of deep connection and seasons of real drift.
In this episode we talk through what actually keeps romance going in a long marriage, what quietly kills it when you stop paying attention, and how you can get it back when it feels completely hopeless.
What To Expect In This Episode:
- Why romance shifts from chemistry to intentionality the longer you are married, and why that shift is actually something worth celebrating
- The honest conversation about hormones for women 50+, why getting them in balance matters more than most people talk about, and where to start
- What it means to become a student of who your spouse has actually become across the decades, not just the person you married
- The powerful difference between feeling chosen and feeling merely tolerated, and what it does to a marriage when your spouse knows you would still pick them all over again
- How curiosity, mystery, and paying attention to the small things fuel intimacy and keep romance going long after the early excitement fades
- Why earned love, the kind only built through decades of faithfulness together, can be the most romantic love of your life, and how to find your way back to it if it feels hopeless right now
Links & Resources
The SavvyCast episode with Ally Phillips (Ally’s Kitchen) — a great source of inspiration for aging well in midlife:
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